Be Strong

BE editor mark

“All your life you are told the things you cannot do. All your life they will say you’re not good enough or strong enough or talented enough. They will say you’re the wrong height or the wrong type to play this or be this or achieve this. THEY WILL TELL YOU NO. A thousand times no. Until all the no’s become meaningless. All your life they will tell you no quite firmly and very quickly. AND YOU WILL TELL THEM YES.”     Nike

I grew up playing every sport imaginable. My father was in the hospitality industry. We had the privilege of living in a golf community with a clubhouse where swimming, golf, and tennis instructors were readily available. Golf and tennis were essential in many parts of my life. From corporate golf tournaments to playing a round with my dad to catch up when I was in college, having the knowledge of these sports has given me a common language with other sports enthusiasts. This proved especially beneficial when I moved from Colorado to Aiken. I even played on the Gem Lakes Tennis Team for a couple of years before my daughters arrived.

I grew up in Florida, and I learned to swim at the age of two. My love for the water led me to 10 years in competitive swimming. I moved from Florida to Colorado at the age of 10, and competed every summer until high school, and then swam year round as a member of the high school swim team. I always felt healthy and strong, swimming every day. I became a lifeguard and swim coach, and I learned a lot about going the distance and pushing through, about safety, and about how to help others.

In the winters in Colorado we spent every weekend in the mountains at one of my father’s hotels. I skied every winter through college, and also mastered snowboarding as well as telemark skiing, which I absolutely loved! Skiing helped to keep me in shape and feeling strong. It also helped with my mental strength. It was peaceful and quiet on the slopes. It was a time for reflection, self-discovery, and calm.

I tried soccer, volleyball, baseball, and softball. These sports didn’t last because I was more of an introvert — I liked the solitude of swimming, skiing, and golf.

These days I love hiking. I feel best when I am outside in nature, and hiking builds my strength mentally and physically. With the current mandate to isolate ourselves, I am fortunate to have a sport I can still enjoy. For those of you who have a love of sports but have lost the ability to play or go to games, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Stay strong both mentally and physically. We will survive.

~ Ladonna Armstrong


Thanks to the coronavirus, life has changed. Downtown is deserted. Church services, meetings, classes, social gatherings, and play dates take place online if at all. We avoid hand shakes and spontaneous hugs. We guard our sanity as well as our toilet paper supply.

And yet, the dogwoods are in bloom. Leaves are appearing on trees. Grass is greening. Perhaps now there is more time to notice these things, to have longer conversations about mulch and fire ants with neighbors (at a safe distance), to explore new pastimes, to return to simpler things.

In this context, it’s helpful to remember that the world has survived dire situations before. In 1948, a few years before the development of the Savannah River Site and its “bomb factory” in the Aiken area, C.S. Lewis wrote an essay entitled “On Living in an Atomic Age.” We share with you a few excerpts, and invite you to replace the words “atomic bomb” with “coronavirus.”

In one way we think a great deal too much of the atomic bomb. “How are we to live in an atomic age?” I am tempted to reply: “Why, as you would have lived in the sixteenth century when the plague visited London almost every year, or as you would have lived in a Viking age when raiders from Scandinavia might land and cut your throat any night; or indeed, as you are already living in an age of cancer, an age of syphilis, an age of paralysis, an age of air raids, an age of railway accidents, an age of motor accidents.”

Later in the essay he writes the following. Note his reference to microbes near the end!

This is the first point to be made: and the first action to be taken is to pull ourselves together. If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb when it comes find us doing sensible and human things — praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts — not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs. They may break our bodies (a microbe can do that) but they need not dominate our minds.

So while we make the best of the difficult situation facing our world, let us continue to isolate but also continue to live joyfully.

~ RW, editor

Picture of Ladonna Armstrong

Ladonna Armstrong

Publisher of Aiken Bella Magazine.
Picture of Ladonna Armstrong

Ladonna Armstrong

Publisher of Aiken Bella Magazine.

In the know

Related Stories

Finding the Perfect Dress | Shopping Local for Generations | Palmetto Bella

Finding the Perfect Dress | Shopping Local for Generations

The perfect dress was waiting for me in a small boutique in Aiken. Caroline’s should have been the first place I looked, but I live in Charleston. I spent an entire afternoon perusing all the shops on King Street with a friend. Nothing fit. If it did fit, it did not look right for my age or shape. Women in their mid-fifties want to be stylish and classy, which should not be difficult when one is a perfect 10. That is, size 10, so yes, I am curvy with an emphasis on hips. I was looking for a dress to wear for my daughter’s wedding rehearsal and dinner in March.

Read More »
The Joy of Journaling | Palmetto Bella

The Joy of Journaling

Journaling has long been a way for humans to validate their experiences, concerns, and hopes. It gives the writer a feeling of meaningful achievement in creating a permanent record of his or her life, and it leaves a legacy for family and friends as well. History is built upon the records of those who took the time to leave us their thoughts and experiences. Some of the most powerful diaries are those written by pioneers, men and women at war, and those segregated in one way or another from society. Thoreau, Florence Nightingale, and Lewis and Clark are a few who left priceless accounts of life in other times. We

Read More »
Oh, Wow! | Palmetto Bella

Oh, Wow!

“Oh, wow!” she kept saying, in that breathless sort of wonder that can be heard only in the voice of youth and innocence. “Oh, wow!” Her tiny nose and hands pressed against one store window and then another. She pointed to counter after counter filled with candy. And then several displays of plastic eggs. And scenes of stuffed bunnies and yellow chicks and woven baskets of every size. Even a stack of nothing more than colorful socks caused her to express delight. “Oh, wow!” she said, again and again, as her tiptoes carried her from place to place, store to store, joy to joy. She is only two-and-a-half years old,

Read More »
Be Self-Confident | Palmetto Bella

Be Self-Confident

“My mother said to me, ‘If you are a soldier, you will become a general. If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.” Instead I was a painter, and I became Picasso.’” Pablo Picasso Growing up, I was fortunate to have a “cool mom.” She was, and still is, very generous and hospitable. She was always at events and parties, usually with food. We would come home with friends and she would have fresh-baked cookies, and cheese and cracker and fruit platters, all laid out for us. She would go with us to water parks, set up a “home base,” and let us wander the water park and

Read More »